Love and Pain = Circumstantial or Complimentary Essentials?

Every morning when I look at my window, there is this happy-hate feeling running through me. I’m happy because it always helps as an extra alarm clock in the morning. Beside, this full-wall of window looks actually nice, in the artsy kinda way. But I hate the fact it wake me a few minutes before I’m supposed to. Yeah, this window is pretty much everything I love about my room and everything I hate about it.

Isn’t it funny one exact same thing can bring about two different reactions, two different feelings, and not just different but a direct opposite? It’s amusing how you can love and hate something as much. Love and hate the exact same thing in a pretty much the exact same proportion.

Let’s take a minute and think of one of the most humiliating occurrences you had ever gone through. When you think again about it, does it still feel as humiliating? Or could it somehow be joyfully entertaining and funny? Could you somehow feel the wittiness of that? So… The humiliation and the uneasiness. Are the occurrences circumstantial? Or our feeling is?

“In Chinese philosophy, yin and yang describes how apparently opposite or contrary forces are actually complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another. In Daoist metaphysics, distinctions between good and bad, along with other dichotomous moral judgments, are perceptual, not real; so, the duality of yin and yang is an indivisible whole.” – William Baxter

It got me thinking about relationship where there must be love and pain. I couldn’t help but wonder, is relationship is also like that? Love and pain coexist in the same proportion. Are love and pain in a relationship circumstantial? Or are they complimentary essential? Are love and pain = the Yin and the Yang of a relationship? Do we really need that yin and yang in a balance proportion to keep the relationship alive? Or maybe a relationship is a different dimension connecting the yin and the yang, the love and the pain? Relationship, is it a butterfly in our stomach? Or is it a pain-in-our-arses in disguise? 

Can we ever show love and affection without inflicting pain to the ones we care about? Can we make ones suffer such a pain without caring about them? Maybe we will always make someone smile and frown every once in a while. Smile and Frown, Smown. We make everybody smown.